I’ve gone through phases with my reading – sometimes I devour books at an extreme pace, three a week, and sometimes it takes me a full month to read a single book. This is not a unique experience, nor is my identifying it revolutionary at all.
I’ve been a reader for as far back as I can remember. My mom always tells the story of me and my sister memorizing one of the Angelina Ballerina books basically as early as we could talk, and I guess I never stopped picking up books. I used to practically live in the library – I would bring a bag and take home as many books as I was physically allowed to on my library card, only to come back the next week, already having finished those books. I was lucky enough to grow up in a town that has a really good public library system, and I never found myself wishing for a better selection. I pretty much never had to reread books (although of course I did, because who doesn’t love rereading books?).
Being someone who read so much at such a young age, especially with all of the adults telling me that I was reading so far above my grade level, I developed a bit of a superiority complex about how well read I was (and let’s be honest, I still have that superiority complex). That meant that I was reading books at far too young – I remember being in sixth grade reading an adult book that had very adult scenes (I vividly recall reading some of the pages aloud in the locker rooms as me and the other eleven year old girls in my gym class got changed). I don’t necessarily think that middle schoolers shouldn’t be reading books from the adult section, and I had a very healthy relationship with my parents so I could ask them questions about things I maybe didn’t understand. However, so much of what I was reading went straight over my head.
I was reading all of these dark and heavy books, and it only got worse as I got into high school. There’s nothing wrong with dark and heavy books – some of them are my favorites still. I actually had a conversation with my roommate the other day about how I rarely read happy books (but maybe that’s something to bring up with a therapist, not in a blog post). The books themselves wasn’t the issue – the issue was the attitude I developed about it. I suddenly was embarrassed to be reading books with colorful covers, books that could be deemed “childish.”
But I still liked reading those kinds of books, even if in secret. I would read them in my room, not bringing them to school with me. I would get them in eBook form, and I wouldn’t log them on my Goodreads account (or Storygraph, but the time I got to college) for fear of anyone seeing it. This is the first time I’m admitted aloud that I read all four of the Off Campus series books, the college hockey romance ones. And why am I so embarrassed to admit that I read all of them?
Somewhere along the way, my love of reading turned into a love of being well-read. I still love reading long and pretentious books that explore dark themes, but it’s exhausting to only read those. It came to a climax when I was in my senior year of college – I could only bring a handful of books with me, since I didn’t have room for everything and I also knew I wasn’t going to be reading that many of them in the short semester, and the books I happened to bring were entirely classics (some modern classics as well). And I love reading classics, but having my entire physical TBR as hard to read classics did not make me excited to read.
And that brings me to my question – when did reading for me turn from something I did because I enjoyed it into something I did to prove to myself I was better than everyone else? I’ve recently been reading more “fun” books that are lighthearted or that don’t require too much thought, and those books are just as good as others. I picked up the first Pretty Little Liars books just for fun a few weeks ago, and I hesitated before adding it as “currently reading” on my Storygraph because I have a few friends who would probably raise an eyebrow at that. But why should I be ashamed of reading a fun book that I enjoyed when I was a kid? Just because it’s not necessarily “intellectually stimulating” does not mean it’s not worth reading.
Last week, I had to get an oil change – my very first time going to get one, since this is the first year I’ve ever owned a car. I knew I would be sitting around at the mechanic’s as I waited for an hour or so, and I went to grab the book I was in the middle of, but stopped. I was reading Better Off Wed by Laura Durham, a 2005 book with a colorful and campy cover I got out of a little free library about a wedding planner who gets caught up in a murder investigation. I had so much fun reading it, but I didn’t bring it to the mechanic’s office. I was already nervous, since it was my first time going and I don’t know much about car stuff, and I didn’t want to stand out even more than I already do as a young woman (who so clearly has no idea what’s going on) by bringing such an unserious book. I didn’t bring it with me, and instead scrolled on my phone as I waited for my car to be ready.
If I could go back in time and change that visit, I would have just brought the damn book. I had fun reading it, and I wanted to bring it, and the prospect of shame was what stopped me. I need to stop getting in my own way – I can’t imagine any one single person at the mechanic’s shop would think less of me for reading a book that wasn’t War and Peace or whatever. I read for the love of reading, and it’s time I stop being ashamed of reading a young adult book every now and then – especially since so many of these “fun” books are extremely well-written and, well, much more enjoyable to read than those dense classics full of words I have to look up.
I don’t know if I’m the only one that feels this way, but if I’m not alone, my challenge to you is to bring the fun book with you next time you’re in public. No one is going to judge you for it – speaking from my own experience, I have never once looked at someone and been like, “they’re reading THAT book?” So why am I doing it to myself? Reading should be fun, and it’s time I started letting myself have fun again instead of hiding the fun books away and only reading them on my phone.